Chickens

...For the physical life it is necessary to have the child exposed to the vivifying forces of nature, it is also necessary for his physical life to place the soul of the child in contact with creation, in order that he may lay up for himself treasure from the directly educating forces of living nature. The method for arriving at this end is to set the child at agricultural labor, guiding her to the cultivation of plants and animals, and so to the intelligent contemplation of nature.

-Maria Montessori

Thank you to the Bishas (Lucy) and Thelins (Avidel), two new toddler families, that have agreed to contribute one weekend hour each month to tend to our chickens!

We need just two more families to make a commitment in order to move forward with the chicken plan. Who is in?

Contact stacey@niahouse.org if you would like to help.

  

A Peek into Preschool South

A room in which all the children move about usefully, intelligently, and voluntarily, without committing any rough or rude act, would seem to me a classroom very well disciplined indeed.

Maria Montessori, The Montessori Method

It was a treat to spend the morning in Preschool South. Here is a tiny snippet of their morning work period. I truly value that in a Montessori classroom children have the opportunity to meet their needs. It is apparent in this video that children experience freedom, the opportunity to concentrate, to learn from one another, and make independent choices. Maria Montessori shares,

Our educational aim with very young children must be to aid the spontaneous development of the mental, spiritual, and physical personality and not to make of the child a cultured individual in the commonly accepted sense of the term. …And herein lies the art of the educator; in knowing how to measure the action by which to help the young child’s personality to develop.

Throughout my observation in Preschool South, I watched as teachers, Steph and Ayako, followed the impulses and interests of the children. The teachers prepared the classroom materials, which in their design allow the children to learn through auto-education. There were certainly moments that the teachers offered a bit of instruction, social guidance, comfort, and acknowledgement of work well done. Yet, it was beautiful and inspiring to observe a space where children move freely, confidently, and very happily! 

10 Things We Learned While Backpacking With Young Children (and You Won't Believe #3!)

We have always loved backpacking, that is hiking into a wilderness destination with gear for the night. And we didn’t want to give it up once we became parents. Although backpacking with babies or toddlers presented some real logistical challenges, we loved the remote mountain experiences enough to try to make it work.

And so, over the last few years, we have backpacked with our two kids (at various ages 4 months - 4 years) about 12 times.  But let's start right here with our first free piece of advice: if you haven't been backpacking before, we don’t advise trying it for the first time with young children.That said, it's never too late to learn!

Interested in giving backpacking with kids a shot? Here are some things we’ve learned.

10. Finding the right destination is paramount. We look for destinations, often in the Sierras, that are relatively low elevation (less than 6,000 feet), involve a mile or two hike to a water body, and offer some shade. We do short trips -- one or two nights.

9. Camplife is fun for kids. Your children will be fascinated by camp activities like setting up a tent, cooking over a camp stove, collecting water, and hanging up a bearbag. Encourage your children to participate in camp activities in safe, age-appropriate ways.  

8. Keep everyone warm or you won’t sleep, because they won’t. For the first year of their life, bundle ‘em up with layers and in a sleep sack and warm hat. Once they outgrow a sleep sack, though, it’s time to bring them a sleeping bag. We procrastinated taking this step, and have some painful memories of sleepless nights with one baby.  

7. Lakes or rivers mean children have fun AND you survive! You’ll need water to drink (purify first, please!) and cook with, but water also means kids can splash and swim.

6. The real secret to success is NO EXPECTATIONS! Forget about schedules and naps, forget about bedtimes and routines, this is the Great Outdoors! Once you release those expectations, you’ll breathe in that piney air much easier and learn to go with the flow.

5. Well, there are some things you can expect and should prepare for. Expect owies, meltdowns, and filthy, excited kids. Pack carefully and make sure you have the right gear. We’re happy to consult on backpacks, kid carrying packs, first aid kits, food, shoes, tents, etc etc etc.

4. Channel your inner sherpa, or get a friend to help out. Ben generally carries about 80% of the family’s gear in a massive pack while Katy carries the youngest child and whatever we can stuff in that bag. Katy carried one child up until they turned 3 in a framed child carrying backpack. However, it is definitely easier if there other hearty adults to join you and carry some gear.  

3. You may even get a moment of adult time (and sleep better than you do at home). It’s true: we've had some great experiences where the kids run around in the tent for 10 minutes, pass out and sleep until the sun is fully blasting in the morning. On those nights we get to sit out, sip some whiskey, and watch the stars. But, yeah. We've also had more than a few nights where they take forever to settle down, only to wake up every 20 minutes. Back to those expectations...

2. Your kid can probably hike more than you think. Our kids started hiking short distances around age 2. We have found that telling stories, setting short term goals (Rock throwing at the next lake! Snack at the top of the hill!) is key to keeping our 4 year old moving along. A backpack with water bottle inside--Camelback or Platypus, for example--empower your child by giving them control. Promises of campfire s’mores certainly don’t hurt, either.  

1. It is absolutely worth it!! It’s a joy to see children interacting with their natural environment in such a different way, to see them run free in the woods, scramble up a rock, and touch snow in the summer. If you value being in the wilderness, you'll enjoy getting out there with your kids, too.

Trust us. It’s worth it.  

-Katy Love and Ben Gerhardstein 

Get Child Size Tools & Toys

Looking for holiday gifts or birthday presents for children?!

Check out for small hands

Buying with for small hands benefits Nia House. 

Inspired by Maria Montessori, for small hands, creates tools and toys designed for children- their size and to meet their needs. They have many beautiful and affordable gifts, ranging from cooking tools, art supplies, games, books, toys and more.  Browse the catalogue to see if there are gifts for your little loved ones. Place your order with Nia House and the school can earn between 10-15% of your order. Here's how:

Order with Nia House before Tuesday, October 18th: Your merchandise will be shipped to Nia House. A Group Order over $500 will yield 15% for Nia House and will get free shipping! Stop by the office for an order form and catalogue. 

Please email Kerstin with any questions: kerstin@niahouse.org

Thank you for supporting Nia House! 

Music in Community

Dear Nia House Community,

sara on guitar

For those of you who value music making and are looking for more ways to integrate music in your life and your family, I wanted to let you know about a great resource.

East Bay Community Music Project offers FREE gatherings bi monthly on 2nd and 4th Sunday mornings. Facilitated by Music Together teachers and others, parents and kids and teachers and everyone come together to sing, play, dance and create music together in community.

Sadie and I often attend, and its really fun and a great way to connect.

Check website for location and details: (no need to pre-register- just show up! its a potluck) 

East Bay Community Music Project

If you have any more questions about this or any other ways to connect your family and your child to music, I am happy to be a resource. I'm a K-5 music teacher in Oakland Unified, and have been teaching general  music and also drum circles and drumming classes for 18 years.

Musically yours,

Yari Mander

Father of Sadie  (pre-school North)

K-5 music teacher 

Visit Yari's Website: Heart of Rhythm

Thank you, Yari, for bringing your music to the teachers and children of Nia House!

If you missed Yari singing with the teachers of Nia House, here is a clip.

Parent Meeting Tonight

We look forward to gathering as a community tonight for our first Parent Meeting of the year. Tonight we will introduce the Ground Rules for Creating Community at Nia House. Topics of grace and courtesy and introducing Montessori in the home will be covered. Tonight will also be a wonderful chance to meet the parents of your children's dear friends.

As a reminder, the meeting begins at 7pm. Childcare is full. If you need childcare at future Parent Meetings, please contact the office a day or two before the meeting. 

See you soon! 

 

New School Year on a Brand New Yard!

A heartfelt thank you to the Lemire family for donating their time, expertise, and love to Nia House's yard transformation. The community is overjoyed, especially the children! The yard changes include new picnic tables in the quiet area, poured rubber around the climbing structures, a bigger sand box, boulders for climbing and jumping, grass, and more! Enjoy this sneak peek in the preschool's first day of school. 

We look forward to a wonderful year! 

 

You will be missed!

Enjoy this slideshow of children moving on from Nia House... 

Thank you to all of these children and their families for the years of friendship, growth, learning, and loving here at Nia House. Whether your time at Nia House was brief or long lasting, you became a part of our community and family. Therefore, your are expected to visit and keep in touch!

Children that are moving on...

Aidan

Alison

Andrew

Araya

Aria W.

Beatrice

Daphne

Elliot

Gabriel

Julia

Oliver B.

Sam H.

Vivienne

Whitney

Zachary

Zahara

 

Nia House’s Eco-Friendly Lunch Aspirations

In the midst of getting to and from work and school, navigating bath time, bedtime routine, getting in some quality time with the family and so much more- lunch packing should be swift and hassle-free. Nia House wants this for you. We also intend to make environmental stewards of your children, leave them a world with less waste, and promote healthful eating so their bodies feel strong, healthy, and ready to learn. For this reason, Nia House needs your help in packing environmentally friendly, waste free, and health filled lunches.

At Nia House, there are no garbage cans in children’s spaces. Compost bins are available for lunch waste, paper towels, and tissues. Recycling is available, however, recycling has serious environmental drawbacks. In an ideal world, which we need your help in creating, compost will be the only waste option. Therefore, we ask that you send NO DISPOSABLE PACKAGING in your child’s lunch. Here are some common items we see:

Not only are these items non-recyclable, they often end up littering our school yard.

A Huffington Post Blogger calculated that packing with reusable containers and avoiding disposable packaging can save you $400 per year! Such a cost saving might be worth the extra effort! Being eco-friendly is all about building new habits and routines. We are happy to support you make the changes needed to make Nia House’s lunches waste-free, earth friendly, and healthy.

Here are some tips to get started in packing eco-friendly lunches to Nia House:

  • Skip the individually wrapped items and buy in bulk. Instead of cheese sticks or individual yogurts, you can buy in bulk and send these items in reusable containers.
  • Buy reusable containers.  Remember to label the container and the lid with your child’s name. If washing these each night feels a hassle, have the children help. Once you get home, fill a tub with bubbly water, hand over a sponge or scrubber, and 75% of the time they will likely oblige. Soap and water equals fun!
  • Prepare lunch the night before. We all know, the morning is a scramble. Boil eggs over the weekend, have the children slice and pack the cheese, cut the fruit, make the sandwich or pack up dinner’s leftovers.    

We understand that for many this is a major lifestyle shift. Please reach out if you need more ideas or support. Thank you so much for supporting our efforts at being waste-free and instilling in our children values that will make the planet more inhabitable and their bodies all the more healthy.

For more information on the economics, environmental impact, and health benefits of eco-friendly lunch packing, check out the following articles:

Reusable, Waste Free Lunches: How to Save Your Money, Your Health, and the Environment

10 ways to pack your kids a more sustainable lunch

Victory Over Violence

 

Today, we were graced with a visit by Nia House's visionary founder, Tia Waller-Pryde. I had the great fortune of talking with Tia and learning about her life, what brought her to value the work of Maria Montessori, and how she believes Montessori's work lends itself to educational equity and peace. I am excited to share our conversation in depth soon.

Tia Waller-Pryde invites the Nia House community to Victory Over Violence. If you are grappling with the pervasive violence in the world and media, perhaps this might be a healing outlet. 

Thank you, Tia!   

Black Woman is God

Catch Nicole's latest art work

in this upcoming exhibit at SOMArts Cultural Center. 

Co-curated by Karen Seneferu and Melorra Green, The Black Woman is God celebrates the Black female presence as the highest spiritual form and challenges viewers to do the same. More than 60 intergenerational artists working in sculpture, painting, a…

Co-curated by Karen Seneferu and Melorra Green, The Black Woman is God celebrates the Black female presence as the highest spiritual form and challenges viewers to do the same. More than 60 intergenerational artists working in sculpture, painting, and new media hone in on the vital contributions of Black women as artists and social change-makers, ensuring that the Black woman’s contribution to society is seen and valued.

Activated by live performances and a community cyper, The Black Woman is God asserts that celebrating Black women is essential to building a more just and sustainable future. All are welcome to reconsider mainstream constructions of Black femininity.

THE BLACK WOMAN IS GOD
EXHIBITING ARTISTS
Bushmama Africa
Marissa Arterberry
Latisha Baker
JaeMe Bereal
Lorraine Bonner
Edythe Boone
Cynthia Brannvall
Camille Brown
Tracy Brown
April Martin Chartrand
Toshia Christal
Queens D. Light
Cheryl Patrice Derricotte
Nicole Dixon
Erika Dukes
Alise Eastgate
Anna W. Edwards
Dania W. Frink
Bre Gipson
Renata Gray
Shylah Pacheco Hamilton
Ewunike Ayobami Hanson
Nannette Y. Harris-Jones
Idris Hassan
Jasmine Haynes
Shah Hussein
Ayana Ivery
Amana Brembry Johnson
Virginia “Nia” Jourdan
Val Kai
Iyabo Kwayana
Joan Tarika Lewis
Samuella Lewis
Sita Kali Ma
Ajuan Mance
Kanika Marshall
Shona McDaniels
Kathleen McDonald
Francis Mead
Selamawit Mekonen
Bre’yanna Mitchell
Patricia A. Montgomery
Fatima Nasiyr
Aambr Newsome
Yetunde Olagbaju
Lala Openi
Rosalyn Parhams
Lakiba Pittman
TaSin Sabir
Yasmin Sayyed
Karen Seneferu
Britt Sense
Marnika Shelton
Sage Stargate
Taiwo & Kehinde
The House of Malico
Nye’ Lyn Tho
Karin Turner
Blue Wade
Fan Lee Warren

PERFORMING AT THE BLACK WOMAN IS GOD OPENING RECEPTION
Sister Nau-T Agu
Ryan Austin
Bri Blue
Colette Eloi and dancers
Zakiya Harris ft. Elephantine
Charlene Gumbs
Monica Hastings-Smith
Kimiko Joy
Phavia Kujichagulia
Queens D. Light
Shawn Nealy-Oparah
Osunfemi Wanbi Njeri
Coco Pele
Frida Precariat
Amara Tabor Smith and House/Full
Lalin St. Juste
Mar Stevens

More information on The Black Woman is God opening reception on SOMArts website here: http://www.somarts.org/theblackwomanisgodopening/.

Nia House Board of Directors 2016-2017

Thank you to all the Board Candidates and to the Nia House community for taking the time to consider and vote for Nia House's Board of Directors for 2016-2017. 

Each candidate that ran brought so much heart, commitment and their unique skill sets to serve our community. Thank you for this.

It was a very close race! I am happy to announce the folks you have all elected to serve Nia House!

Parent Representatives

  • Loris Mattox
  • Jeff Vincent
  • Miriam Persley
  • John Marshall

Community Representatives

  • Jolie Coursin
  • Cindy Tsai-Schultz

Staff Representative

  • Nicole Dixon

 

Parenting Reflections From a School Director

by Eve Uberman

The passage of time has always been a topic of wonderment in my life.  Some moments come quickly and disappear while others seem to last forever; some I wish would last longer while I would prefer for others to pass. 

Working with young children and families at Nia House offers days and years filled with the observation of time in a physical and emotional way.  The last 15 years have been filled with countless moments to see and feel the concrete passage of time. 

Welcoming new families into the program, watching the families grow and sending our children off to first grade classrooms prepared with the skills to lead the new generations brings me immense joy.  Hearing children sound out their first words and seeing them write their names for the first time is an honor and a privilege. 

I now have an opportunity to take an even closer look at both time and growth through the evolution of my own son from a mere bump on the belly to a nearly 5 month old child!

My personal challenge during this life transforming time is to recognize the daily feats and struggles of little Abraham, pulling them together to form a comprehensive vision of the forming of his identity with the patience and expertise of my professional life.  My experiences observing other families has been beautiful and uplifting, but has afforded me years of quiet evenings and restful nights.  I have arrived at school each day ready to celebrate each child's progress. 

Now, with a busier home environment, less sleep and a more eventful  household, I am striving to practice the celebration of time by acknowledging the cycles of the days and weeks, the fleeting nature of each moment and the true excitement that accompanies my own child's acquisition of independence, focus, motor skills, emotional and physical growth. 

Just as I have observed Nia House children over the years, I can see that Abe is delighted with his own growth, with his daily accomplishments and by the opening of his eyes to each new day.  

The closeness with which I can appreciate the passage of time continues in my professional life and now, with Abraham, occurs in my personal life as well.  My goal as a parent is to continue to allow the wonder and awe that has permeated my career life to pass through into my home life, a pleasure of a task!  Abe makes sure that his parents notice his presence in each moment with his cooing, rolling, amazing laughter, his interest in new experiences, and by physically outgrowing his clothes. 

As I have learned from many of the parents in the school community over the years, I hope to truly acknowledge the time that seems to stand still (at bedtime or a lack thereof) and the time that speeds by so quickly, and to hold dear each moment as they pile up into a lifetime of learning, loving, growing and more. 

Parents, let's get to work!

Hello Nia House Folks!

Parent Work Day: Saturday, April 9th, 9am-1pm

We have so much to do tomorrow! Here's the scoop- we will landscape the toddler yard, sand and finish tables, deep clean, and prune and weed. If you plan to come and you have any of the following things, please bring them: electric sander, sheers/garden clippers, and your own gardening gloves. Oh, and a raincoat! We will work inside and out, rain or shine. 

Thanks everyone! I look forward to seeing you. If you can only come for part of the day, that is just fine. Come connect with other parents in the community. Please remember, work days are just for adults. 

Looking forward to it!

 

 

 

Developing Self Esteem in Children: Praise vs. Ackowledgement

Thank you Nia House Parent Community for a spirited and thoughtful reflection on the development of self esteem in young children. Below please find links to the articles that helped inform the meeting and some notes capturing the meeting's main points.

What is self esteem and when do you feel it? 

Parents shared that they felt self esteem when they succeeded, took a risk, mastered something, and when they worked hard.

To build the esteem needed to take healthy risks, all people must feel safety, trust, and belonging. The same is true for children.  The origin of trust rests in an infant getting their needs met, in closeness and eye-contact of their beginning years. 

How then, do we create the safety and security for children to take risks and develop their self-esteem?

Toddler parent, Miriam, shared her notes on this portion of the parent meeting:

  • You're their calm foundation. Your calmness keeps them grounded. You should be unchanged. If you make a mistake you should do restorative work. 
  • Remind them that "Your challenges become strengths."
  • Respecting your child means that there is an environment for restorative work. 
  • Give language tools. Empower them to say what they are feeling. Express their boundaries. 
    • "Watching body" to the toddlers means stop and watch. Not touching others work. 
    • Give language to emotions. Give words to what they are feeling. 
    • When they are using a tone that is not respectable you can say "you want to try asking in a different way? If you ask that way I want to say no. But maybe if you ask differently I might say yes"
    • When whining say "I can't understand when you speak like that. I can hear you when you use your normal voice."
  • Don't engage in battles of the wills. Instead you can say "You can do --- that's polite." Instead of "do ----" 

What happens, parents wondered, if I lose my calm? What happens if I speak to my child out of anger or frustration? Maria Montessori writes,

So, what science and practical life both need must surely be accepted from the start as necessary in education. This is the possibility of ‘recognizing one’s own mistakes.’ We must provide this as well as instruction and materials on which to work. The power to make progress comes in large measure from having freedom and an assured path along which to go; but to this must also be added some way of knowing if, and when, we have left the path... Errors made by adults have a certain interest, and children sympathize with them, but in a wholly detached way. It becomes for them one of the natural aspects of life, and the fact that we can all make mistakes stirs a deep feeling of affection in their hearts; it is one more reason for the union between mother and child. Mistakes bring us closer and make us better friends. Fraternity is born more easily on the road of error than on that of perfection.
— The Absorbent Mind, page 248-249

The closing component of the meeting focussed on the different outcomes of praise versus acknowledgement. Do we want children who seek peer, parental, or teacher approval before taking a risk or trying something new? Do we want children to acquire new skills for our benefit? To make art for us? Likely not. According to Alfie Kohn, common compliments children hear - "Your are so smart", "Great job,"  "Your painting is amazing", can create a reliance on praise, steal a child's pleasure, and result in reduced achievement.   

We  want children to create, learn, grow and take risks because they are developing a love of learning and are feeding their interests! To ensure this, it is important to know that praise seldom meets the developmental needs of young children. Children need real, objective feedback on how they attained their success. Please read the attached articles for a more thorough exploration on the damaging impacts of praise and aspirations for perfection.

Can we celebrate our children's successes? Yes! Let's be sincere, let them relish in their own feelings of pride, and provide them with specific feedback on how their efforts impacted their success. 

Resources:

How Can We Strengthen Children's Self-Esteem? By Lilian Katz

The Power (and Peril) of Praising Your Kids By Po Bronson

Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job!" By Alfie Kohn

Ten Ways to Build Your Child's Self Esteem By Sarah Henry

Parent Meeting: Wednesday, 03/16/2016. 7pm.

Hello Nia House Parents!

Please plan to join us this Wednesday, March 16th from 7-8pm for a Parent Meeting on Developing Self-Esteem in Children. 

Childcare:

We would love to offer childcare for the event. Last month, the childcare turn-out was so few that the teenagers basically ended up volunteering their time. We hope this month that is can be a fruitful evening for Maya and Rachel. So, if we can reach 10 children for childcare, then we can confirm the care. Please sign up in the office, or send stacey an email: stacey@niahouse.org. Childcare is $5/child to be paid directly to Maya and Rachel. 

I look forward to seeing you all on Wednesday!

 

Align Your Investments with Your Values!

Leader in the Slow Money movement, Marco Vangelisti, is offering a workshop on aligning your investment with your values. 

Align Your Investments with Your Values:

A workshop on portfolio management and local investing

Saturday, March 20, 8:30 am

Global finance is an opaque landscape for individual investors. All too often, our investments can end up tied to socially and environmentally harmful industries, without our knowledge. How can we empower ourselves to act in this sphere, and direct our money toward profitable, progressive businesses?

If you long to operate with integrity in all parts of your life but feel underequipped or bewildered by the idea of aligning your investments with your values, this workshop is a chance to learn essential portfolio management skills and link your financial resources with local resilience.

In this safe, supportive and constructive workshop with other peers you will:

  • Learn the terminology you need to speak confidently with your financial advisors;
  • Learn basic portfolio management tools so you can analyze your own financial profile and needs
  • Clarify your personal values and connect them with your investment
  • Determine what portion of your portfolio is prudent to allocate to local or direct investing
  • Explore a list of potential investments based in CA and practice what you learned by assessing their risk, return and alignment with your values
  • Connect with like-minded individuals on a similar quest!

 

Keynote address on Investing for the World We Want given at the 5th National Slow Money Conference on November 11, 2014 

Investing and the Disappearance of the Sacred (blog post) 

 

More about Marco:

Marco came to the US as a Fulbright scholar in mathematics and economics at the University of California in Berkeley. After a stint in the financial industry, Marco worked as visual artist on a full-time basis for 5 years and obtained a MFA focusing on the intersection between public art and ecology. He later worked for 6 years managing investment equity portfolios primarily on behalf of large foundations and endowments. In April 2009 Marco left the finance industry and has since been instrumental in the formation and development of the Slow Money Northern California chapter. He is sharing his experience doing direct Slow Money investments with communities around the country to help them increase their capacity for local investing. Marco is currently developing Essential Knowledge for Transition – a curriculum for engaged citizens to understand the money and banking system, the economic system and the financial system and how we need to transform them.