Nia House Parents of toddlers through five year olds took time last night to grapple with day to day discipline from the lens of their teenage child.
Who are we raising & how are we doing it?!
Sometimes, remembering our long term goals helps us inform how we do each moment of our day.
What type of teenagers do we want to live with?
TRUSTWORTHY
INTERNAL DRIVE
COMMUNICATIVE- EYE CONTACT
EMPATHETIC
FUNNY
HONEST
CURIOUS
KIND
TIDY
RESPECTFUL
INTERNAL DRIVE
HEALTHY RISK TAKER // DARING
SELF ENTERTAINING // SCREEN FREE !
What qualities make for a meaning relationship?
TRUST
RESPECT
COMMUNICATION
LOVE
LISTENING
OBEDIENCE
FORGIVENESS
HUMILITY
GRATITUDE
QUALITY TIME
HUMOR
SNUGGLING
PLAY
SHARED INTERESTS
CONSISTENCY
BOUNDARUES
GENUINE CARE
If not conventional punishment, then what?
REDIRECT - “LOOK AT THAT SPIDER!”
GET CURIOUS ABOUT PATTERNS // INTERRUPT
EMPOWER CHILDREN TO BE HELPFUL // IN CHARGE
GIVE TWO CHOICES
“NO” HAS POWER, USE IT WITH CARE, SAVE IT FOR THE REALLY IMPORTANT THINGS
MORE YES THAN NO
FIND ALTERNATIVES … “YES, YOU CAN DO THAT (insert alarming, wild, or odd activity)… OVER HERE”
LESS TALK
SING A SONG
USE HUMOR
MODEL & TEACH RESPECT
ROUTINE
NOTICE THE GOOD - POSITIVE OBSERVATIONS
Nia House parents use time outs in a different way…
STOP WHAT I AM DOING TO CONNECT, READ A SHORT BOOK WITH MY CHILD
FIND NATURE- HEALS US ALL
TAG - TEAM
TAKE A MOMENT ALONE, TO BREATH
DISTRACT
PRACTICE CALMING TECHNIQUES WITH CHILD
CHANGE OF SCENE
LAUGH