A reflection on adult-child greetings, by Eve.
Dr. Maria Montessori introduced the concept of initial lessons of grace and courtesy for young children. In this lesson, children learn to properly introduce themselves: "hello my name is xyxyxyx, what's yours?" at which point the other person replies and the lesson continues, "nice to meet you," "nice to meet you too!" Some children forget at times and say, "who are you," at which point we just say, "hello, my name is zhzhzhzh, what's yours" which is usually enough of a reminder for them to continue a polite introduction.
In addition to thinking through our proper greetings with children (and one another!), it is important to remember that Nia House is a children's space. It really belongs to them. We adults (parents and teachers) are just part of the environment. If you draw a lot of attention to yourself in your arrivals and departures, the children become very drawn to you, rather than to their independent play, and their time becomes a little less constructive. Once they are distracted from their independent play, greater conflicts arise and children sometimes even compete for adult attention.
And.... we really want your children to see you (parents, caregivers and family members) greet the teachers properly and the teachers to greet you properly upon arrival. The teachers count on those sweet moments of contact with. you. Please reflect on a balance of proper greetings while helping the children (and teachers) remain focused on their work.
Additionally, as a community, let's reflect on physical boundaries as well. It is not physically appropriate to hug children you don't know, nor is it appropriate to pat heads. You are encouraged to give warm waves or fist bumps and high fives/ shake hands with children, if they are interested in connecting.
This is a follow-up to our last parent meeting on the topic of safety. We certainly don't want young children hugging complete strangers or being physically affectionate with people who are not trusted adults, so let's set the tone for appropriate greetings now!
